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< A rare personal post >
(When worlds collide)
I went to grace cafe that was sponsored by my church, GCC. I met a bunch of people: e7sense, esohn80, oneeyedking, knugget, Hahacincin2, half of mosesYoonjoyce, ONEder_Woman and OneNose. These are people I actually know in RL already. I’ve either been introduced or at least have some sort of connection with them: Family group, friends of friends and an old classmate. I’ll let you guess which one’s my classmate. 🙂
In addition, I also spotted tigress52, jasonyip, passionprayerpurity, WayneSimmons, dejeeOINKoink and korean_darkness.
I’d already done a bit of socializing earlier at dinner b/c a friend asked me to eat, chill & chat. How can you turn that down, right? I met 1 new person and another acquaintance that’s pretty cozy with this friend who asked me to dinner. I’m really an introvert, even though I act like an extrovert sometimes. Meeting new people and dealing with large groups really tires me out mentally. So you’ve got the general feel of what’s going on here. So after dinner, I’m going to this new event set up by my church, to chat with some buds, meet up, and maybe, hopefully also connect with other people in this particular body of Christ. Now that I’ve already taken the time out to come out on this chilly Friday nite and having already stretched my “outgoing” nature to it’s limits from work and dinner, How am I supposed to connect with anyone? to build up the body?
Well, let’s just say, it didn’t really happen. I sat down, mostly talked with people I already knew. Some OAK’s had shown up and they were chatting it up with some people, got a couple of nods and high-fives. (High-fives are kinda strange, they seem like some sort of retro thing. But I cannot turn down an offered high-five, just like I wouldn’t have the heart to turn down a handshake, it’s just so wrong. But I digress…) But yea, I stayed mostly inside my comfort zone. I was tired, a bit off balance from both work and dinner, so even though I know OF some of these people… like tigress52. I didn’t come up and say hi.
I guess in some ways, it’s very strange to come up to someone you don’t know anything about and just say, “Hey, nice xanga.” But as the night was drawing to a close, I was helping with the clean up and just helping out, I happened to catch a glance from korean_darkness. He was smiling and generally looking friendly, so I thought, “aw heck, why not?” I walked next to him and said, “Hey korean_darkness” and he was stopped to think for a sec, most likely shifting from a list of RL friends to online xangians he knew. But I’m not a subscriber to his site, nor do I visit often. It just so happened that I checked my list of visitors. (Yes, I know you guys come to my site… you see all this text and you run out just as quickly.) And I saw him listed, so I went and visited his site. I said “Hi, I’m ha256 / Hon” We chatted a bit about xanga, but it was really hard to find something to connect on. I’ve seen him a couple of times when I went to visit the Ardmore site, but I can’t say exactly when we may have met before. (I’m really bad with names / faces.) We chatted about where we might have met and made a bit more polite conversation and then that was it.
Retarded, huh? I didn’t go up there to make small talk. I didn’t want to be a wallflower. But life happens. Was there some body-building going on? Probably… I’d have to take it on faith. Just wanted to share about a most peculiar Friday nite.
Learned lesson of the day?
I’d have to say that if you want ha256/Hon to come up and say hi, all you need to do is smile at him. I’d be most unmannered to not come up and at least make chit-chat. But yes, smaller groups are better for me, probably the best is single digits, unless I know each one of them. (And no, polite small-talk does not count as KNOWing.)
Hope everyone’s having a good weekend.
</ A rare personal post >
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=)…YAY HON! haha…small steps forward is always better than none right? i’m encouraged that you tried to step out of your comfort zone to do the awkward =). it’s “weird” but sometimes small talk is needed? like there’s stages of conversations you have to go through with people in the beginning of any friendships/relationships. you start with small talk, then the next time you see them…. maybe you can follow-up the small talk and ask questions regarding their work-life and other stuff you talked about. then after that it becomes less awkward and more natural =). haha..everything is a process. of course sometimes i am an idealist and wish that people could just be open and real right up front…but i’ve learned that it doesnt work that way =P. ppl gotta to learn that they can trust ya =).
and yeah.. believe it or not, i think i’m introverted too =P. big groups can be intimidating. but i try to blend in…muahaha. good to see ya at Grace Cafe! sorry didnt get to chat with ya at all… i was internally stressing about the girls that i brought =P. haha.. wanted to make sure they were eating and they were chatting with peeps =P.
have a good weekend!
I can see something beautiful starting between you and korean_darkness, even though you guys didn’t connect that much in the beginning. You know, the beginning is always akward and all. If it doesn’t work out between you guys just know that someone out there loves you and watches over you, ok?
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korean_darkness…? ….
I missed out on the fun
.. a weekend spoil due to paper writing :typing:
:cheekygrin: here’s a smile coming your way!
hey, we have met before. sorry i didn’t come over to chat. i actually hate big groups too but I was passing around food and that gives me something to feel less awkward.
see you around!
hey man, look at all your posts, you are so popular. I envy you.
hey, p dan’s ordination was today.
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:bomb: i’m so dead in an hour (for my math final).
hehehe that’s why we’re twins, I actually hate big groups also :). But I will say, I just had this conversation with a very close friend from college, and we were lamenting that we aren’t as “friendly” as we used to be. I guess we get more selfish as we grow older, more content to live in the comfort zone. ok, in some ways, but really should fight other parts of it 🙁
hehehe…How come I smile when I see you, but you didn’t bother. hehehe…j/k!
In my opinion, I like small gatherings then big ones too. I thought it’s just me, but now I know, it’s not. hehehe…:wave:
hey Hon.. You and me alike. Introvert by nature.. I don’t like big groups either. It is too scary to mess with.. but one lesson I learn today.. when words failed.. Just smile!!! Hhahaa… :headbanger:
er. i had violin lessons. that i couldn’t miss. i wouldn’t have stayed though. really.
VISIT. and then you’d know what is going on w/ tccgp.